Yo Coffee Phil:
I got into the same situation with a bent cantilever on my N-44-3 after many years, and I can't blame it on a child. It was my own careless handling of the arm that did it.
I wound up replacing the stylus with a generic stylus from Garage-A-Records, that cost me $32.00. The pick was based strictly on cost. http://www.garage-a-records.com/products.php?cat=84
I have been using it for about a year now, and it works fine and tracks well at 3 grams. I also use a VN4G 2 mil stylus on a V-15-IV on the Grace arm on the same turntable, but that's a 2 mil stylus. I pick the stylus that gives the best compromise between clear highs and low surface noise. But the Garage-A generic stylus works well and the price was right. One of these days I'll buy a Stanton 500 and a set of those Expert Stylus truncated elliptical retips with all the different size styli, but not now. $450.00 is over budget.
And good luck from that perpetually short old guy,